Valentine's Day is for Everyone

February   11, 2018  - Cori Wilbur


Another Saturday night and you ain’t got nobody. February 14, the day single people dread so much. Why? Just because you are single doesn’t mean you don’t have love in your life to celebrate. If you like pina coladas and getting caught in the rain, come with me and escape…or something like that.

All throughout elementary school, Valentine’s Day was spent passing out cards and boxes of Sweethearts to fellow classmates; nobody was left behind and everyone wound up in a sugar coma from the cookies. Traditions changed around high school and valentine granting got a little more selective. I received a wilted carnation from a random admirer one year and that was that.

According to Kurt Vonnegut, “a purpose of human life, no matter who is controlling it, is to love whoever is around to be loved.” So is Valentine’s Day about love or about being the antithesis of single?

The longer I stay single, the more comfortable I get being in my own company and the less I desire having someone else there to “complete” me. So far, I have never had a valentine in the traditional sense. That’s not to say I’ve never had a particularly negative Valentine’s Day experience either.

My best friend and fellow single gal, loves the day. Here’s how she adopted such a healthy outlook: in Peru (where she was born), Valentine’s Day doubles as Friendship Day–that’s genius. Why don’t we do that here? Thinking about it, the only thing close to true love I’ve ever felt is friendship. For those of you that believe in soul mates, it’s totally healthy to believe your best friend is yours.

I know it’s tempting to wallow while watching some inaccurate depiction of romance on Netflix. Don’t. Even if you had a boyfriend/girlfriend, who’s to say that there is real love within that relationship? If that’s the case, I would dump whomever they are and redirect your attention to someone who does truly love you–your friend, your mom, your friend’s mom, your pet gerbil or even you.

Whitney Houston once sang “learning to love yourself, it is the greatest love of all.” Forgive me for sounding trite but she was (and still is) absolutely right. Maybe you’re single, maybe you’re in a relationship, the greatest love you will ever feel is the one you feel for yourself. Love yourself first, love other people later.

Ultimately, if this wasn’t enough inspiration to get you through, you can look at Valentine’s Day as simply a holiday you just don’t celebrate; I mean Jewish people don’t get angry on Christmas. You have your birthday–that day is unquestionably (or at least it should be) about you. And no one has decreed you to invite happy couples to your birthday dinner.

For the record, August 5 is Friendship Day in the United States; the real important day is February 15, when stores mark down chocolate truffles.






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