Attracting Love and Abundance – Yes, There IS a Connection!
Attracting Love and Abundance – Yes, There IS a Connection!
by Oxana Lovich and Andrei Knight. Founders and head coaches, APEX Life Mastery
Many people are searching for love, or at least for more fulfillment from their current relationships. If this is you, you are not alone. Sadly, many fail to find it, as dating app revenues and divorce rates are both at an all-time high.
Another disappointing fact is that, according to statistics, most romantic relationships end due to disagreements about money. It seems that those who achieve financial success often do so at the expense of their family lives. The world is filled with lonely millionaires who dream of finding love, as well as hopeless romantics who are broke.
At the surface, it would seem that we have to choose one or the other. However, after helping hundreds of clients achieve their goals and fulfill their dreams, we strongly believe that it is possible to have both. The key lies in understanding what creates lack in either area, as well as the subtle connection that love and abundance both share.
Let’s start with those searching for love, or those currently in relationships who wish they were more loving and fulfilling. The issue with this is that searching comes from a feeling of lack. And if we feel we are lacking in love, we are seeking to be filled from outside of ourselves. And since like attracts like, we will tend to attract partners and situations which also radiate lack.
So what’s the alternative, you might ask? How do we find love without actually looking for it?
The answer is surprisingly simple! We must first find love within and for ourselves. For, truly, our first and most intimate relationship is with ourselves. Unfortunately, we spend a lot of our time, energy, and attention focusing on our faults. It is no wonder, then, that as soon as we find ourselves in a relationship, we begin seeing the faults in our partner.
If you wish to find or create truly lasting and fulfilling love, start by loving yourself. Make a list of qualities you like about yourself. If you were to make a profile on a dating app, or a friend was playing matchmaker and selling you, what would they say? What do you have to offer someone?
If this exercise proves difficult, that’s okay – congratulations, you have arrived at the core of the issue. Perhaps you will discover some qualities about yourself you wish to change. If so, then it’s time to get to work! After all, who we are is only ever fixed if we do nothing. We are free to change at any time we wish. We simply lack the motivation or incentive. This is the trap of those “looking” for love or those waiting for love to find them. Waiting seldom accomplishes anything, and certainly not the change we desire. And our life tomorrow is the result of the choices we make today. Know that you have both the power and the freedom to create the life you want.
It could also be that you do have amazing qualities to offer someone, but perhaps have a hard time seeing them in yourself. This points to an issue with self-love. And if we do not love ourselves, how can we possibly expect another to? If this is the case, perhaps ask a friend to help you with the above exercise. People often see things in us that we fail to see in ourselves.
We encourage you to go over your list on a regular basis, adding to it as needed. Self-love and self-esteem are not qualities people are born with, rather they are skills you can develop through practice.
Next, make a list of qualities for your ideal partner. Be as specific as possible. If this is the first time you have done an exercise like this, then like many you have been leaving things largely to chance. As with your first list, feel free to revise as necessary, and be sure to read your list and visualize your ideal mate as often as possible. As you can see, attracting is a bit different than seeking or hoping to find. It is a deliberate act, as opposed to waiting and trusting in luck.
We do not find the ideal love; so do not waste your time looking. It finds us. And in order to attract it, we must first be overflowing with it. Remember, like attracts like. So fill yourself with love rather than want and lack. In our experience, people who actively fall in love with themselves, by constantly reminding themselves of what about them is loveable, and who are specific about what they need and want from a relationship, often create the ideal situation within a matter of months if not weeks.
Now let’s look at the broke romantic. They are also searching for love outside of themselves, looking to be filled. Because someone who truly loves and values themselves also values their time and their skills, or at least loves themselves enough to learn and develop new ones if needed. Remember, any situation can be changed – if we are willing to change.
The issue is that most feel more comfortable complaining about their situations rather than doing anything to change them. We tend to be creatures of habit and repetitive patterns. Don’t just sit back and blame luck or circumstance – if you truly wish to experience something different, then do something different!
Lastly, our lonely millionaire. It amazes us how many of our clients are rich and successful, yet find themselves feeling lonely or empty inside. And this has been true regardless of whether they are single, or married! Are you beginning to see the pattern?
For many, accumulating money or status has become their drug of choice, not unlike any other addiction. And almost all addictions are the result of trying to fill a (perceived) void within ourselves from something outside of ourselves. This is not unlike a dog chasing their own tail.
Whether you desire more money in your life, more love, or both – know that it starts with self-love. For love, truly, is the most powerful force in the Universe. The problem has largely been that we assume it comes from somewhere outside of us.
Oxana Lovich is a certified Reiki master, hypnotherapist, and transformational coach.
Andrei Knight teaches meditation, Tantra, and holds certifications as both an NLP practitioner and a professional coach. Together, they founded APEX Life Mastery in order to combine their areas of study to create powerful tools to assist people with making the changes they desire in order to create the lives of their dreams.
Find out how you can unleash your true power and start living the life you truly deserve by visiting www.ApexLifeMastery.com or searching for Apex Life Mastery on YouTube.